rattus rattus' blog » partner http://blog.rats.at where lies keep rotting away Mon, 02 Jan 2012 20:23:03 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Not to hurt http://blog.rats.at/171/not-to-hurt http://blog.rats.at/171/not-to-hurt#comments Fri, 25 Aug 2006 21:47:58 +0000 rattus http://blog.rats.at/171/not-to-hurt There are probably many aspects to the double bind illustrated in “It hurts me, too“. Here is what it boils down to for me:

Someone says: Never do I want to hurt anyone.
Someone else replies: By this you do. The way you are hurts.

Finding particular reasons is left as an exercise for my dear readers.

]]> http://blog.rats.at/171/not-to-hurt/feed 3 It hurts me, too http://blog.rats.at/147/it-hurts-me-too http://blog.rats.at/147/it-hurts-me-too#comments Sat, 19 Aug 2006 15:56:56 +0000 rattus http://blog.rats.at/147/it-hurts-me-too A friend of mine, after we had been together for about 3 years, once wrote to me:

Why do you react like I am playing an important role in your life? I don’t know but I guess there must be a reason. Anyway, the way you are hurts me, and it puts me off.

I don’t know either, but I think we can call this some painfully sad words. I am afraid, they can make even a liar cry for the hidden double bind. If someone who we do not want to hurt tells us that we do
we are cursed.

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